I really want to sound off on the John & Kate divorce announcement, but I'm not going to go there. I think how easily that could happen to any one of us and what that would do to our precious families . . .
When you get married and start having kids, you can see your whole life ahead of you. No one plans to see that dream crumble in brokenness and heartache. I couldn't imagine just "visiting" Josiah or "catching up" with Annie. I count on waking J up every morning and seeing that big smile. I carry him into Annie's room where she smiles and giggles at him as they get changed and ready for the day. As mundane as that may be, I need that every day.
Amy and I have been married for over 12 years now. We've sat down with a Christian counsellor on more than one occasion to help us sort our feelings and communication issues that we just weren't equipped or willing to deal with. But we always come back to the table. If I were in John & Kate's shoes, I'd cancel the show immediately and get with somebody that can help sort out all those feelings of anger and resentment. Especially for the sake of those kids!
I guess that's my point; when it all comes down, even when the walls feel like their closing in all around you, it's not hopeless. But you have to be willing to come back to the table. Be honest with yourself and with each other and talk, I mean really talk, about what you both want out of life and what's standing in the way. Seek out a friend or counsellor if need be, but keep talking.
Years from now, we're going to see the Gosselin kids on some "E! True Hollywood Story" episode and their going to point to today as the day that shaped them, for better or for worse.
3 comments:
Couldn't have said it better myself! There is no shame is asking for help... people need to do it more and sooner- before it is too late!
My husband and I started counseling with a Pastor through a church. Even though we really are not into religion we went this route. We are trying to go into with a open mind, and it's helping but he hasn't been available to us because of a prior arrangement.
He believes that in order to make marriage work that you need to have God in your life? He always refers back to the bible. Do you believe that marriage can't survive without God. I believe that some of the things written in bible should be followed just because I know the difference between right and wrong. That doesn't mean that I have always known that, because I have matured with age.
Very well said Dave. I thought I was the only one who was struggling with that TV situation.
:)
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