When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unsolvable problems that you’ll be grappling with for the next ten, twenty or fifty years.
Bruxy went on to highlight a critical misunderstanding of the famous passage in Eph. 5 where Paul is describing the relationship between husband and wife. We have always heard, "Husbands are the head of the household; wives submit to their husbands." (Eph. 5:22-32)
Many churches have used this portion of scripture to justify a lordship or authority over their wives. This theological bias can be seen in the latest August 2016 update to the ESV. Gen 3:16 reads:
To the woman he said,
“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”
but in the latest revision to the ESV, this passage was changed rather significantly to read:
To the woman he said,“I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be contrary to[a] your husband,
but he shall rule over you.”
This unfortunate translation bias leads the Church to believe that men have authority OVER their wives which simply wasn't the intent of the text. Wives are being called to submit to their husbands as we (the church) submits to Christ. It's a natural part of being a follower of Christ. Husbands are being called to love like Christ loves the church. Our 21st century reads that as a pretty great deal for the guy. But in 1st century Jewish culture, submission was natural and loving like Christ was not only counter-cultural but nearly impossible!